Low-Pressure Naughty Menu

What this is (and what it isn't)

This document provides ways for partners to stay sexually connected without requiring arousal, performance, or pushing through pain.

Participation is based on choice and permission, not effort. No partner is expected to 'get into it', escalate, or finish anything. Participation is intentional and safe, with full control to stop, pause, or change direction at any time - no explanations required.

Nothing on this list is an obligation. Trying something once does not require agreement to repeat it. Short, contained experiences are a feature, not a failure. If something works, it continues. If it doesn't, it is dropped without drama.

This approach focuses on:

  • Low physical cost for the participant
  • Clear boundaries
  • Sexual energy and closeness for both partners
  • No pressure, no expectations, no post-analysis

Ground Rules (so this stays safe)

  • Either partner can stop at any time, immediately
  • No expectation of arousal or escalation
  • Sessions can be very short (5-15 minutes)
  • Do not interpret, fix, or analyse afterwards
  • Stopping does not indicate rejection

Universal Option: Sex Toys (can be used with any item below)

Sex toys are tools to reduce physical load, work around positioning or pain limits, and maintain sexual connection when bodies do not cooperate. They can be introduced independently or layered into any menu option.

Toys for her

Supports comfort, positioning, or solo pleasure through masturbation.

Examples:

  • A vibrator for clitoral or vaginal stimulation while lying comfortably
  • A toy that allows self-pleasure without specific positions or physical strain
  • A toy that lets the participant control intensity and timing completely during masturbation

The goal is enjoyment without strain. The participant controls pace, pressure, and duration.

Toys for him

Masturbation toys (such as strokers or similar devices) used when physical participation or performance from the first partner is limited.

Examples:

  • A masturbation toy selected, held, or controlled by the observing partner
  • A toy used for masturbation while being watched, directed, or guided verbally
  • A toy used alongside verbal direction, narration, or teasing

The toy fills the physical gap; involvement of the observing partner provides intimacy.

Options: One partner directs, the other acts (low effort)

Directed masturbation

One partner guides the other's masturbation.

Examples:

  • Indicating speed, timing, or pauses during masturbation
  • Setting rules like 'do not orgasm yet' or 'orgasm now'
  • Giving instructions continuously, occasionally, or only once or twice

Physical touch is optional.

Countdown / denial

One partner sets a countdown or deliberately interrupts before orgasm during the other's masturbation.

  • Controls timing of when partner can climax
  • Physical involvement is optional

Verbal only

Using words alone, no physical action required:

  • Praise
  • Dirty talk
  • Teasing
  • Directing

No acting required, only verbal participation.

Options: Presence with minimal movement

Passive presence

One partner is physically present but not active.

Examples:

  • Lying on the bed while the other masturbates
  • Sitting or lying comfortably while the partner touches themselves or masturbates
  • Presence itself serves as intimacy

No movement, effort, or reaction is required.

Manual or oral stimulation (short, optional)

Manual stimulation (hand job) or oral sex provided to a partner. Participation is optional and time-limited.

  • Immediate stopping is allowed
  • No pressure to continue or escalate
  • No expectation to bring partner to orgasm

Body-as-object (explicitly consensual)

One partner allows the other to interact physically without emotional, sexual, or active engagement.

Examples:

  • Remaining still while the partner touches or uses parts of their body (breasts, thighs, stomach, buttocks) for the partner's arousal or masturbation
  • No response, movement, moaning, or display of enjoyment is required
  • Desire or pleasure is not necessary for the activity to be effective

Important boundaries:

  • Only occurs with clear, explicit consent
  • Immediate stopping allowed at any time without explanation
  • Partner responsible for pace, actions, and stopping

This is not disrespect or ignoring the participant; it removes performance pressure.

Options: No touching

Explicit narration

Describing sexual scenarios using words alone.

Examples:

  • Talking through a sexual fantasy
  • Describing the scenario as if it is happening now
  • Describing actions if pain were not a factor

No physical activity required.

Watching

Observing the partner:

  • Undress
  • Masturbate
  • Respond to their own chosen actions

Silence, occasional comment, or simply observing is acceptable.

Contextual naughtiness

Situations are made sexual without overt actions.

Examples:

  • Being naked under clothes during ordinary routines
  • One partner remaining unclothed while performing normal tasks
  • Sharing explicit thoughts or comments in everyday moments

No touching required; naughtiness comes from context.

Additional Menu Options

These are ideas, not requirements. This is not a checklist or a marathon. Discussing an idea counts as participation.

Talking & fantasy (discussion only)

  • Discuss favourite porn stars, fantasy partners, or hypothetical 'hall passes'
  • Discuss favourite porn moves or scenarios
  • Share what works best visually, thematically, or for pacing

Sexting (text-only, low effort)

Sending naughty messages during the day or apart.

Examples:

  • Short explicit messages indicating desire or thoughts
  • Teasing instructions (e.g., think about this later, do not touch yet)
  • Maintaining sexual energy without physical presence

Single messages or brief exchanges are sufficient.

Pictures & directed desire

  • Sending a picture with instructions to think about it during the day
  • Restricting use of a shared picture for a set time

Finishing-focused options (short, optional)

  • Lying down with instructions for the partner to ejaculate on a specified body part (breasts, stomach, thighs, etc.)

Brief, contained moments; continuation not expected.

Storytelling while partner receives pleasure

  • Tell a sexy, explicit story while:

  • The partner is briefly stimulated, or

  • The partner pleasures themselves
  • Clearly describe actions and roles
  • Fictional or imagined characters and scenarios may be used

Stories are purely fantasy, not real-world intent.

Make-Out Session

Option 1 - Classic:

  • Partners share a long, passionate kiss (French kissing optional). Simple, old-fashioned intimacy can be effective.

Option 2 - Playful:

  • Kiss deeply, hands may wander lightly or hold each other close.

Option 3 - Sensual:

  • Engage in a long, lingering kiss. Focus on slow, mutual enjoyment.

Option 4 - Casual / Low-pressure:

  • Kiss without expectation of escalation. Simple, shared closeness.

Option 5 - Guided Touch:

  • One partner's hand may be guided under the other's clothing to touch breasts, genitals, or other intimate areas. Participation is voluntary and controllable.

Outsourced experiences

  • Arrange a sexy date with a sex worker as a fantasy or discussion topic

Ambiguity is intentional to allow honest discussion and exploration.

Warning

This may not be legal in some regions. Check local regulations first.